Category Archives: Family Life

Intimacy after the baby!!!!

So I’ve been away from this blog for quite sometime. I was away for the last trimester and first few months of my daughter’s life. As we all know, after the 6 week check up (some move much faster, lol) our mates are ready for some action! Now some women may say “he has lost his mind, I just a pushed a baby out, and I want nothing going in”!! He’s thinking “well damn, it’s been some months now! Let’s get it on”! A baby does not equal no sex life. You need your relationship and the intimacy.So here comes a crossroad, how do you both get what you want? After a baby, women tend to feel a little overwhelmed. Creating a helpful atmosphere will help her get into the mood. Take some responsibility off of her hands so that she doesn’t have a headache and isn’t tired. And that additional help will earn you some brownie points. Here’s a great scenario. Once the evening comes around, prepare dinner and tidy up afterwards.mgive the baby a bath and feed, if the child is not breastfed. Even if you are tired, you know your goal, so you have to sacrifice your rest 🙂 Once you have lightened your load, go to her, kiss her gently and when she says… I have a ton of stuff to do. You Sam I took care of it! Boom!!!! She’s done, and you should be well on your way between the sheets.

Now ladies, I completely understand being tired, having a headache, mild pain from healing the past 6 weeks, and just not feeling like it. Just remember that, every time you say no. Remember that one day he will stop asking or in some cases, begging. One day his head will hurt, he’ll be tired, or just won’t want you. That feeling of rejection will hurt, so why do the same to him. Men have feelings as well. A relationship is like a plant, you nurture and water it, if you fail to do so, it dies. Getting alone time is difficult when you have children, so get creative.
* Have a hotel room in your home. A room that you escape to in order to become step 2….
* Role play. I wrote an article about this topic. When you’re in a relationship, it is best to keep it spicy. You be Brad and she can be Angeline, or Halle and Billy Bob, when they were on “Monstera Ball”! We all remember that scene!!!!
*Schedule a date. There is no reason to not a have a babysitter every now and then in order to grab a bite to eat,
* My favorite piece of advice….TOUCH!!! Kiss one another through the day. Caress one another, make out like teenagers.
* Talk, be honest with one another. This is your partner. If you can’t tell each other, then who??

Find ways to show each other that you do appreciate them. Men and women think differently. Remember that when you are feeling some kind of way. No one is a mind reader. Discuss new fetish, dislikes, and possibilities that you may be one to. It’s all worth a try!!!

Until next time: keep it spicy! {Tarah D}

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The Baby Bump Chronicles

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The Baby Bump Chronicles.

Week 39!!!! So if you have reached this point or any point after week 37, you have probably tried every natural inducer known to man. You may have just finished sex and now on google while bouncing on a birthing ball, eating pineapple, and sipping on red raspberry tea, all while considering a perineal massage with evening primrose oil, when you had no idea what a perineal was! Lol!! At this point I am not tired of being pregnant, I actually love it. My concern is being medically induced, that terrifies me. In many hospitals, the closer you get to your due date, the more talk you will hear about it in the hospitals. Now I’m not sure if I told you all that my goal is have a natural, medicine free birth. Everyone is entitled to birth their own way, I chose this one because I’m not big on medication.
Anyway, during these last few weeks I got to see my daughter again on the ultrasound at 37 weeks. She was 7 ibs 12ozs, but they say give or take a few ounces. now that day didn’t go the way I expected. First of all I started feeling mild shakes in the womb at week 35 and it concerned me. So I told my OB and she sent me to get a non stress test. A non stress test is a fetal monitor and contraction monitor that you stay on for at least 20 minutes to check the baby’s heart rate during contractions. Well, my baby stays up all night and sleeps all day, so at 9am, she slept through the test. So after they tried keeping her awake three times, they sent me for a growth ultrasound. The ultrasound was extremely detailed. It measured blood flow, weight, and brain/heart function. Just when I thought it was over, they sent me to labor and delivery 😦 I wasn’t ready yet!!!! But she ended up passing the prolonged monitor testing and by 4pm, we got to go back home. Now don’t get me wrong, my bags were packed and in the car, nursery complete, carseat installed and all ready, I just hadn’t mentally prepared myself, but hey it’s her show, not mine.
Well now I’m home and only dilated 1 1/2 cm and 20% effaced, booooo!!! I will of course keep you all updated with progress, but for now I’m going to go get back on my birthing ball, lol!!!!!

These last few weeks:
Baby hiccups
Heartburn
Nausea
Pelvic pressure
Leg cramps
Sweet cravings
Narcolepsy
Super frequent bathroom runs!!!!
And my personal favorite… Braxton Hicks!!!!


The Baby Bump Chronicles

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My first blog of 2012!!!!! Needless to say, there are plenty of pregnant celebrities and the media is on baby watch! Beyonce, Jessica Simpson, Jennifer Gardner, Hillary Duff, to name a few. And I’m sure they have the same problems that we do, lol!!
I am officially 34 weeks! Now to us, that would equal 9 months, however, in the land of pregnancy they add the days of each month, not the months per say. So by the time I give birth, I will be 10 1/2 months, wow!!!! As my journey comes to a close, I must reflect on the time that has past. The first 18 weeks felt like the hardest thing I ever did in my life! The first tIme my husband and I were able to see her was at the 10 week ultrasound. Amazing! The amount of love that comes over you for a person is unbelievable. I craved nothing but carbs for a very long time, potatoes, pasta, and rice. No meat, fruit, or veggies. I ensured that I took plenty of vitamins to supplement my diet. Please read the pregnancy books, believe me it saves you many unnecessary trips to the ER. Be aware of round ligament pain, it feels like stitching in your sides, especially the right side. Oh, and the rib pain you start to feel towards the end of the second trimester???? That’s just your friendly uterus pushing yur rib up to accommodate the baby’s growth. Try laying on your left side fr a few minutes. Drink your water, whether you like it or not it is a nutrient for your baby. I didn’t get any crazy cravings, from what I’ve read, they only get really crazy when you ave deficiency such as iron. The only craving that was odd for me was sodium, I guess because I eat a high sodium diet, my blood pressure was low. Being pregnant required more sodium. Read about every vitamin and its benefits. Here are a few things that worked wonders for me:
Nausea- peanut butter on saltines and club soda. Plain saltines did nothing for me and I couldn’t take the thought of ginger anything, still can’t!
Skin breakouts: I never went through breakouts before, so once I was pregnant my hormones went crazy! I use a charcoal soap and cream that works like a little peice of heaven! I tried every product you could name that was safe for pregnancy. Nothing worked except the charcoal soap. Couldn’t drink orange juice, but supplemented with vitamin c to keep my immune system strong, especially during flu season.
Back pain: Exercise! Exercise Exercise! You will want to lay around and relax, but stretch and workout! You will thank yourself later!
Heartburn: dairy products such as yogurt can be helpful. If you can tolerate them or Tums.

Colds: I took alot of vitamin c and d to fight the one cold that I had because I didn’t trust the over the counters. Sometimes they say they are safe but they haven’t been tested on pregnant people, so how would they know it’s safe????
Braxton Hicks: drink yor water and lay on your left side. Water is your friend. If you let yourself get dehydrated, you will regret it.Those are just a few that come to mind. I took a very natural approach to my pregnancy. No two pregnancies are alot, not even for the same woman. I’m enjoying my third trimester tremendously. I love the bonding time I have with my mini me 🙂 Well that’s all for now. will give a weekly update as the pregnancy comes to a close!
{Tarah D}

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The Baby Bump Chronicles

So you have contemplated on whether it is time to start my family. You have finished school, got married or planning on it, make enough money and are just plain tired of people asking you “when are you going to have children”? All the while you are thinking to yourself…. Are they going to feed those children, clothe them, pay for day care, and change their daily schedule?? No, no one will giving that helping hand when the baby novelty wears off, so you have to be ready for it. let me give you a drop of advice……
1. You will never be completely ready for the most drastic change in your life.
2. It is the most drastic change of your life 🙂
3. You have to want it for yourself, because it is a full time commitment.
4. Stop trying to plan every second of your life, children change those plans at a moments notice.
5. There is no Morning Sickness, it’s all day 🙂
6. What ever food you liked, say goodbye during the first trimester!
7. Last but not least….. You will never be more in love then you are the moment you find out your pregnant. Every ache, pain, vomit, and midnight cravings will be worth it. It gets better 🙂

The first trimester was a bit traumatic. You don’t know what is normal and what’s not, so your always calling the doctor. Once you get to the second trimester, things really start looking up. I’m at week 19 tomorrow and I’m so grateful that I get to enjoy it now. This thing called “round ligament pain” will be your worst enemy. It’s a sneaky one, so be on the look out. Also, you may grow rapidly once you hit second trimester. Your body may get tense, so consider a good workout routine, I met with a prenatal trainer last week and she is showing me what I need to stay fit during this pregnancy. They say to watch what you eat, but trust me, I know it’s hard especially when you can’t keep much down. I ate noodles, baked potatoes, French fries, sandwiches and 3 hamburgers throughout the first trimester. The funny part is, I rarely ate starches before pregnancy and detested beef!! I couldn’t go near fruit or vegetables or anything sweet. I still can’t have the fruit except for mandarin oranges (want some now)! My usual snacks are cereal and triscuits. Oh, and i only drink water. Definitely can’t have orange juice and I water down my grape juice, ok, that’s all for this week. See ya next week!! And don’t forget, I’m waiting for your baby and family stories, even if your not pregnant yet!!

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The Baby Bump Chronicles

Hope you enjoy the journey forward and feel free to share your own stories soon 🙂

So many of the women that surround me are either pregnant or trying to get there. I understand the frustrations that go along with waiting every single month for ovulation and the 10-14 days to take a test, only to find out that’s its negative. Ladies you are not alone. I created this post in this category so that we can journey together through all aspects. I know that you have heard it all….
1. Just relax, stress won’t help
2. If you stop trying, it will happen
3. Hold your legs in the air
4. Put a pillow behind your back
5 Try this position or that position
6. Don’t use the bathroom for 30 minutes
Yeah, yeah, but when your ready, those are the last things you want to hear. Then you watch everyone around you getting pregnant. I know, trust me. Tell me about it. But it will happen in due time 🙂

To the ladies that are already pregnant, how life changing is this!!! Your back hurts, your eating beef when you were once a vegan, your legs are swollen, you always feel like your cycle is about to start, can’t brush your teeth, your mans cologne and hair suddenly smell repulsive, you pee every 20 minutes, you rush to the bathroom only for 6 drops yo come out, you have to eat a whole meal at 3am…. Sound familiar?? Lol! It seems as if the person that you were is now being altered by the little being growing inside. You never knew just how much you could truly love another human until this little life began to grow. Tell me about it 🙂

Mothers, I know you are thinking, don’t complain now, you are just getting started. 2am feeding, walking, daycare, talking back, homework, bag lunches, school buses, school clothes, attitudes, and the infamous: Teenagers know everything!!!!! I recently became a guardian of a my 15 year old niece and let me say, teenagers are very different then children 🙂 Tell me about it!

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