Sometimes we travel this life in search of something. You may never truly know what it is until you stumble across it. The thought of it makes you smile. You close your eyes and there it is right before you. Happiness.
It comes in many forms. So often we voluntarily sacrifice ourselves for the happiness of others. Or we accept the ill conduct of others that we are scared to lose. Know that it is absolutely ok to have expectations of others. You can expect that they treat you with love, respect and concern for your well being if they are in your life as friends or lovers. That expectations means that you show ppl how to treat you. Be the type of person you want others to be to you. They may not, but you can certainly expect that ppl treat you a certain way or be willing to walk away. If it is not in accordance with what you desire to be Happy in this life, you can absolutely walk away. We must stop doing what others deem the “right” thing when it comes to our lives. Consider what makes you happy. There are no guarantees in this life and for all we know, there’s only one shot at it!
From the moment our feet hit the floor in the morning, people have ideas about what we should be doing with our life. Everything from what we should wear to who we should date/marry. There are rules for women that are set by other women, men, society as a whole. Our clothes dictate whether we should be taken seriously. Who we decide to date can create negative or positive views towards us, but not the men. We have to be a lady in the streets and a freak in the sheets. Be pure in virtue but have experience to please a man. Be ambitious but not aggressive or manly. Be smart but do not over shadow the man in the room. We are so use to others tearing us down that we tear one another down for the most irrelevant and unnecessary reasons. Being a woman comes with incredible hardships. Many of us are emotional creature and that is not easily understood by men. The fact is that women are created to love in a certain way. If that love is shunned, it changes her little by little. We are expected to take things with stride because we are told or expected to do so. Understand that I believe that healthy competition in the work place/ board room is necessary for the sake of business but constant criticism isn’t necessary.
The facts are simple, we women often bounce back from many situations. Why… because we are rock stars! We are nurturers, child bearers, wives, teachers, business women, CEO’s, authors, writers, publishers, artists, producers, musicians, actresses, directors, trainers, doctors, lawyers, psychologists… and we run the world! We do so much that it is time that we just recognize one another. Take the time out of your day to show appreciation to another woman. It is hard enough to live up to society’s unrealistic views, let’s just enjoy being women for the time being.
So I’ve decided to do a series of “clarity” moments each day this month.
I’ve realized that I am a sweet, stern, loving, controlling, passionate, strong, caring, dominant, endearing and loyal person. Yes, all of that mess. This also means that I am quite aware of all of my flaws which makes it easier to feel human.
You see, people have so many unrealistic expectations for others, but none of themselves. We have to learn that people will make mistakes and it’s up to us to forgive them. Don’t be so short sided that you can’t forgive a person. Life’s so short and precious we only have one choice…
- Love hard
- Kiss passionately
- Accept differences
- Appreciate differences
- Laugh and smile as much as you can
- Try something spontaneous
- Live like you love life
- Take the chances while you have them
Have a beautiful day and thank you, thank you, thank you for reading my thoughts!
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On a daily basis we have a million things going on. How often do you take time to regroup? Do you have a method? I try to start my day with both light meditation and yoga. Sometimes with my husband and daughter. It allows me to balance my day prior to the daily hustle and bustle!
- Breathing exercises
- Cook breakfast
- Sit outside with a cup of coffee or tea!
- Just enjoy a few moments of silence!