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Passion…

Yes, I’m talking about biting your lip at the sheer thought of your lover. Tracing their face with your finger tip, tightening your legs from the shiver and exhaling because you realized you weren’t breathing! Whew! Closing your eyes and feeling them in their absence…

Open your eyes when kissing and watch how much passion takes over your body. It’s intoxicating! So much passion and intimacy lies within the touch. Touch one another. Play with one another. Laugh and talk with one another. Plan a surprise hotel stay and make love all night! Have a parking lot make out session! Throw caution to the wind but don’t get locked up! Please! Go on a date with crotchless panties! Get handsy! Play in the car, but don’t end in sex, leave with a little anticipation, a little yearning but not too long! Life is about fun as well. Loosen up!

Be with someone who makes it overtly clear that they want you! If you have beautiful, easy and solid chemistry, don’t take it granted, everyone doesn’t have it. It doesn’t mean they can’t have a beautiful relationship though. True intimacy takes effort. Consider your lover. Men typically want to be wanted, women want to be desired. Women love to be considered. Simple as that. The power of passion lies in intimacy. The power of intimacy lies in communication. The power of communication lies in vulnerability.


Attraction…

I read a few articles and different postings about attraction and how we can get it wrong in our relationships. So across the board it discusses being attracted to the persons natural scent. Pheromones. That if anything about their particular scent is off putting to you, they are not the person you’re suppose to be paired with. Do you love the smell of your lover straight out of the shower without perfume lotions or soaps? Do you wake up in the morning and kiss the person without brushing your teeth? Can you?

Furthermore do you like their smell after they come home from a long day of work? Would you make love to them without a shower if they hadn’t been sweating all day?

People believe in soul mates but do those same people believe in compatibility based on natural smell attraction?

I’m curious, have you ever broken off a relationship based on a persons’ natural smell? Have you ever found yourself insanely attracted to a persons’ natural smell but couldn’t understand why?

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Connections & Love…

A deep, slow and passion kiss will change the vibe in almost any setting. Lately it’s been either raining or sunny and beautiful! With that said, there’s been so many opportunities for sex in the rain, on the balcony, on top of the car, in the doorway….. Taking each moment in as if you’re frozen in time. Reveling in the warmth and strength of the connection.

Besides, it’s it the connection that makes the difference, right? A connection will change the intensity of any sexual experience. It’s an enchanting high! Take time to nurture the depth of your person. Release the vulnerable sides of you. Be more open, more honest. Admit when you need them, when you want them and when you miss them. Understand that a connection will lack depth if only one person comes openly and speaks freely. People often say they’re an open book but will silently hide chapters. Don’t be afraid of hearing they don’t have time at the moment. The chaser will grow tired, they want to be chased (desired) as well. Everyone makes time where there is none, when they really want something and someone. Give them a chance because the truth is, they want to feel needed, wanted and missed. Speak up and breathe your desires…


Self Pleasure…


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The older I get, I run into more women (especially young ones) that can not imagine pleasuring themselves. I hear things like ” it does nothing for me” or ” my man does it right, so I don’t need to do it”. One has nothing to do with the other. If you have a difficult time pleasing yourself, how can anyone else please you? Just curious. It’s a true state of relaxation and no pressure of satisfying anyone but yourself at the moment. You learn new things about yourself 😉

How do you know everything you like or how to teach him your best number, if you don’t know it? Have you ever had that climb up the wall and electrifying passion that caused an internal explosion before you even get started? Amazing right? Well, real self pleasure is all enjoyment and only if you desire it. No pressure.

There is a whole different type of orgasm that occurs when you’re controlling it. It helps you get to know yourself as a woman. It is empowering! No, it does not replace your mate or make you want them any less, it can enhance what you have. When in a long term monogamous relationship, the same old thing becomes mundane. If you’re single, you may want to consider it. Life is too short to be unsatisfied.

I know it is not for everyone, but at least try it before you completely disregard it. I even have some toys that I highly recommend! So feel free to inquire. Don’t be ashamed of achieving an amazing orgasm. Being in touch with your own sexuality is an amazing feeling and you’re allowed to have it. We will all get well acquainted in this area with self confidence and self sexual gratification.

Until next time…
Let’s get spicy!!!!!


The Great Pretender…

I’m sure you’ve discovered that you have been this person at some or several points in your life.


Well look at you! Always on point and unbothered. The epitome of a well balanced person. Lie!! Hello Pretender.

There may be a point where you’ve become another person, but you’re unsure when it happened. So many things have brought you to this place. You’ve watched others become this person and you offered love and support to get them back on track. Now it’s your turn to take a spin on the downward spiral. This spiral has you completely out of character, overly emotional, questionable thoughts and constant confusion. All while pretending that it’s normal.


Now here comes the interesting part… So although you feel this way, you smile and make others comfortable and even happy. Heck, you even laugh and smile because you’ve somehow convinced yourself that you’re ok. Besides, that’s the way your people prefer you to be… Strong, together and unmoved. That makes them comfortable. Low and behold, the tears capture you because guess what? You’re not ok!

  • Why is it that people feel the need to hide what they are actually going through, in order to make others feel better. Including their significant others.
  • Why is it that people are so narcissistic that they have this idea that your only problems involve them?
  • Why do people feel ashamed to be sad, depressed,  stressed or just funky?

It’s ok. Really. It’s ok to not feel like yourself or to be any or all of the above ⬆️ emotions. Just find an outlet. Stop pretending because eventually it will catch up with you and it will be difficult to control.

So many of us are walking around just pretending and have no idea.

My advice… Take some time and try to find your way back to “YOU”!
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Sometimes…

Sometimes, if only for a moment I wish I could be a kid again. Or at the very least, disappear for awhile to some quiet with no worries. As a kid, life was a bit easier, no decisions to make, no tears unless I was really bad or being spoiled, but most importantly my loved ones were near, dear, safe and sound. Well, mostly. I remember the first time my heart felt broken. I was 10 years old. My mom came into my room with a cup of chocolate pudding and sat down next to me. My Uncle had past. At 10, this man was much of my universe. His smile, his happiness, his laughter. Just one of the greatest humans to live. See, my grandfather died a few years prior but I didn’t know him well and hadn’t spent much time with him. I grew up in New Jersey near my uncle (his brother) but my grandfather lived in Baltimore. My uncle became my surrogate grandfather in a way. When he passed, it felt as if a part of me died as well.

Fast forward 25 years, my strongest rock, my grand foundation, and another piece of me is lying in wait of death and my heart is once again in shambles….

Waiting is the worse. Watching is sadness.

So yes, take me to a space of no worries. Even if only for a moment. I usually go silent when I deal with major life events, it’s helpful. I just chose to write this time. Find a way to express yourself and know that it’s ok to be sad at times, but don’t stay in that space too long. Release.

I won’t complain because much has been given in this life. So many blessings, exciting moments and laughter! Take a moment to smile at those thoughts. No one is untouchable, take time to appreciate them while they’re here…

Joy comes in the morning.


Moment of Clarity #1

So I’ve  decided to do a series of “clarity” moments each day this month. 

I’ve realized that I am a sweet, stern, loving, controlling, passionate, strong, caring, dominant, endearing and loyal person. Yes, all of that mess. This also means that I am quite aware of all of my flaws which makes it easier to feel human. 

You see, people have so many unrealistic expectations for others, but none of themselves. We have to learn that people will make mistakes and it’s up to us to forgive them. Don’t be so short sided that you can’t forgive a person. Life’s so short and precious we only have one choice…

  • Love hard
  • Forgive
  • Kiss passionately
  • Accept differences
  • Appreciate differences 
  • Laugh and smile as much as you can
  • Try something spontaneous 
  • Live like you love life
  • Take the chances while you have them 

Have a beautiful day and thank you, thank you, thank you for reading my thoughts! 

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Confessions of a Graduate Student…

Let me first start by saying… I am not feeling this semester! Like, seriously! It’s a ton of work, but I’m capable of it. It’s normal to just be over it, right? 

  
See, instead of finishing my homework… I’m blogging. Ugh! What do you all do to stay focused on a day when you’re not in the mood or just tired? Music, food, text, coffee… Have your eyes ever been so dry from reading that the eye drops burn? 😂 Yes, that’s where I’m at now! 

Ok, enough whining! The reality is, in my case Graduate School is necessary for my next professional goal. Do what it necessary to succeed!  I can do this, remember how I just told you to be your own cheerleader? Time to break out the pom-poms!

 It was so nice talking and having you all there to listen! Time to hit the books, but first I’ll grab a snack and some tea! 

Until next time…

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Self Love… 

There are so many things that I can say about this subject, but I will keep it brief.

  • Don’t take life to seriously, try to be silly once in awhile!
  • Take time each day to appreciate the person you are!
  • Don’t try to be perfect, be apologetically you!
  • Make the changes in yourself that you desire from others!
  • Stop pretending you’re ok, when you’re really aren’t.
  • It’s ok, to not be ok.
  • Please exercise and eat right (if you’re not already). Life’s to short to be unhealthy on purpose! (I’ll post a quick 30 minute workout and grocery list this week as well).
  • If you find someone that loves you for exactly who you are, love them back. Love is beautiful! Be real.
  • Be your own cheer leader.
  • Ask for help if you need it!
  • Create a daily ritual that sets the tone for your day!
  • If you want to reinvent yourself, why not start today?
  • Try something new
  • Smile!
  • Laugh!
  • Pay it forward!
  • And last but not least, try to relax a little. Sometimes we overthink, stress and completely panic over things that may not matter in a week. Relax, smile, laugh and live!


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