I’m sure you’ve discovered that you have been this person at some or several points in your life.
Well look at you! Always on point and unbothered. The epitome of a well balanced person. Lie!! Hello Pretender.
There may be a point where you’ve become another person, but you’re unsure when it happened. So many things have brought you to this place. You’ve watched others become this person and you offered love and support to get them back on track. Now it’s your turn to take a spin on the downward spiral. This spiral has you completely out of character, overly emotional, questionable thoughts and constant confusion. All while pretending that it’s normal.
Now here comes the interesting part… So although you feel this way, you smile and make others comfortable and even happy. Heck, you even laugh and smile because you’ve somehow convinced yourself that you’re ok. Besides, that’s the way your people prefer you to be… Strong, together and unmoved. That makes them comfortable. Low and behold, the tears capture you because guess what? You’re not ok!
- Why is it that people feel the need to hide what they are actually going through, in order to make others feel better. Including their significant others.
- Why is it that people are so narcissistic that they have this idea that your only problems involve them?
- Why do people feel ashamed to be sad, depressed, stressed or just funky?
It’s ok. Really. It’s ok to not feel like yourself or to be any or all of the above ⬆️ emotions. Just find an outlet. Stop pretending because eventually it will catch up with you and it will be difficult to control.
So many of us are walking around just pretending and have no idea.
My advice… Take some time and try to find your way back to “YOU”!
Sometimes, if only for a moment I wish I could be a kid again. Or at the very least, disappear for awhile to some quiet with no worries. As a kid, life was a bit easier, no decisions to make, no tears unless I was really bad or being spoiled, but most importantly my loved ones were near, dear, safe and sound. Well, mostly. I remember the first time my heart felt broken. I was 10 years old. My mom came into my room with a cup of chocolate pudding and sat down next to me. My Uncle had past. At 10, this man was much of my universe. His smile, his happiness, his laughter. Just one of the greatest humans to live. See, my grandfather died a few years prior but I didn’t know him well and hadn’t spent much time with him. I grew up in New Jersey near my uncle (his brother) but my grandfather lived in Baltimore. My uncle became my surrogate grandfather in a way. When he passed, it felt as if a part of me died as well.
Fast forward 25 years, my strongest rock, my grand foundation, and another piece of me is lying in wait of death and my heart is once again in shambles….
Waiting is the worse. Watching is sadness.
So yes, take me to a space of no worries. Even if only for a moment. I usually go silent when I deal with major life events, it’s helpful. I just chose to write this time. Find a way to express yourself and know that it’s ok to be sad at times, but don’t stay in that space too long. Release.
I won’t complain because much has been given in this life. So many blessings, exciting moments and laughter! Take a moment to smile at those thoughts. No one is untouchable, take time to appreciate them while they’re here…
Joy comes in the morning.
So I’ve decided to do a series of “clarity” moments each day this month.
I’ve realized that I am a sweet, stern, loving, controlling, passionate, strong, caring, dominant, endearing and loyal person. Yes, all of that mess. This also means that I am quite aware of all of my flaws which makes it easier to feel human.
You see, people have so many unrealistic expectations for others, but none of themselves. We have to learn that people will make mistakes and it’s up to us to forgive them. Don’t be so short sided that you can’t forgive a person. Life’s so short and precious we only have one choice…
- Love hard
- Kiss passionately
- Accept differences
- Appreciate differences
- Laugh and smile as much as you can
- Try something spontaneous
- Live like you love life
- Take the chances while you have them
Have a beautiful day and thank you, thank you, thank you for reading my thoughts!
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Let me first start by saying… I am not feeling this semester! Like, seriously! It’s a ton of work, but I’m capable of it. It’s normal to just be over it, right?
See, instead of finishing my homework… I’m blogging. Ugh! What do you all do to stay focused on a day when you’re not in the mood or just tired? Music, food, text, coffee… Have your eyes ever been so dry from reading that the eye drops burn? 😂 Yes, that’s where I’m at now!
Ok, enough whining! The reality is, in my case Graduate School is necessary for my next professional goal. Do what it necessary to succeed! I can do this, remember how I just told you to be your own cheerleader? Time to break out the pom-poms!
It was so nice talking and having you all there to listen! Time to hit the books, but first I’ll grab a snack and some tea!
Until next time…
There are so many things that I can say about this subject, but I will keep it brief.
- Don’t take life to seriously, try to be silly once in awhile!
- Take time each day to appreciate the person you are!
- Don’t try to be perfect, be apologetically you!
- Make the changes in yourself that you desire from others!
- Stop pretending you’re ok, when you’re really aren’t.
- It’s ok, to not be ok.
- Please exercise and eat right (if you’re not already). Life’s to short to be unhealthy on purpose! (I’ll post a quick 30 minute workout and grocery list this week as well).
- If you find someone that loves you for exactly who you are, love them back. Love is beautiful! Be real.
- Be your own cheer leader.
- Ask for help if you need it!
- Create a daily ritual that sets the tone for your day!
- If you want to reinvent yourself, why not start today?
- Try something new
- Pay it forward!
- And last but not least, try to relax a little. Sometimes we overthink, stress and completely panic over things that may not matter in a week. Relax, smile, laugh and live!
I’ve added yoga to my life and it’s amazing how life changing it has been! It’s honestly a whole experience. It connects your mind to your body and believe me, it’s quite different to be connected with yourself.
Life delivers unexpected transformations. You begin to realize that some wants have become needs and you take chances more frequently. Stop waiting for it to happen and make it happen. Life’s too short. You never know the outcome, but try it. You may love it and find it unforgettable! 😘
The plan that you may have had for your life is somehow off track. Fix it! Remember being a teenager and thinking “as soon as I grow up….”. You thought you would have a career that would allow you live in different states and even countries, just to jet set and live life with no burden. Once you’re ready you decide that your going to get married and have 2.5 children and a dog with the white picket fence. This is after you finished jet setting 🙂
Strangely enough those things are well planned but rarely do they happen that way. This day has showed me how some do not quite appreciate their lives and grab life by the balls! No matter where you end up in life, its all about what you do with the time you are given. Be happy with where you are, and learn ways to become proactive instead of reactive. If you want more out of life, just push forward. Opportunities are out there, they just have to be found. I love to meet new people because they give me new perspective. Never think that you can not learn from all types of people. I enjoy picking the brains of great minds. Successful people drive me to be the best me. In order for me to be the best at my craft, I must do what’s necessary to perfect it!
Hello my beautiful people!!! Just wanted to share one of my favorite tips. Drink a liter of water in the morning before doing anything. Here is the tip, prepare your liter the night before and slice a half of a lemon in it. Drink it the next morning before breakfast. This will help flush your system and reboot it for the daily events. It will also aid in the fat burning process because the body starts working to process the water instead for sugars and calories from breakfast. Lemon helps with water retention and that is an added bonus! A daily natural detox is awesome.
P.S You will have to use the bathroom during or after drinking the water so stay near a restroom.
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