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My musical love affair…

The wind blowing, the beat of a song, the sound of a voice, the thought of a smile, lyrics to a song, intoxicating smells, a simple touch…

Driving and listening to music are two great things that help clear my mind. It settles my soul in a way that only music can and makes everything better! I’m a passionate person and it shows. When it’s true love, I love deeply, completely and forever.

From the moment I turn you on, you turn me on. You capture my heart by your rhythm. The beat gets deep into my soul and marks its territory. I should get away but I need just a little more. I’m like an addict, I yearn. Over and over again, you do your thing. It’s amazing, you get better with time!

Thank you my dear sweet music!


Music reminds of love. When most of us fall in love, we have no idea. That road is an interesting one. It’s so simplistic that it can go unnoticed until one day “bam”! It hits like a ton of bricks! We fall in love with many things. Life, people, music and even stuff.

We listen to music to motivate us and cheer us up! Those bumping fitness jams and that inspirational soul music that gives you life. You know what I’m talking about 😏


You ever notice how you listen to the lyrics of a song when you’re in a deep mood? The mood can be deep love, deep sadness or the state of being overjoyed. Yes, music is amazing that way. What’s the song that you turn to when your in love, love lost, happy, sad or exploring?

I remember when I heard Carl Thomas’ song “Giving you all of my love”! Changed my life!

“It’s just a wish on my mind, hoping you’d have the time

When I wanna see you, for something to hold on to.

If love is just a silly game, then I’m a fool that sang for loving you. Still I feel you don’t have nothing to prove

Touching you, holding you, is all I really wanna do. Day and night I just can’t get enough. I want you more, and really need, for you to just believe in me. And I’ll be giving you all of my love”…

Just beautiful! Remember to love deeply, even if it’s not forever! Be authentically you, and if someone doesn’t like it, show them love ad kindness and move forward. It’s better to love and lost than to never love at all! Steal a kiss, close your eyes, listen to lyrics, feel the breeze,  daydream a beautiful thought, make last minute rendezvous arrangements, be spontaneous,  imagine the touch, dance like no one is watching …😘

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The Inconvenient Truth…

We often walk dark paths while attempting to deceive others into believing that our path is full of light. Society sheds such a bad light on not feeling like yourself, depression and mental illness of any sort. This is the biggest reason that many suffer in silence. Sometimes we do things, find people and say things that become our drugs and therapy versus getting the necessary help. These new drugs are strong addictions that you find impossible to kick, not because you need it, not because it’s good to you or for you but because you are numb and just want to feel again.

It is impossible to heal if you are only avoiding. Healing is hard. Healing is very hard. It is lonely, dark and cold. Those things or people that are now your drug are like a “vacation” an escape away from your own reality. This means that not only are you not healing, you’ve now created something else to forgive yourself for. You’ve dug a hole that only continues to get deeper and darker. Of course you smile because that’s your role in everyone’s life. You take it on the chin and understand that some people are just inherently assholes and no matter what you do or say it will never be enough. Just remember that it’s ok to be in this place. It’s not ok to continuously ignore yourself.

1. Find a place in your heart and forgive yourself and others

*Journey through what got you to where you are in this space. Dig deep

2. Write your woes on a sheet of paper and burn it

3. Start therapy and/ or medication to get you back on track if deemed necessary by a medical doctor

4. Take some time to yourself and evaluate how you treat people and how you allow people to treat you

5. The final tip is to love yourself no matter what. This will become difficult. At times you won’t like the person that’s staring back at you in the mirror. It’s constant change, constant evolution. You’ve contemplated the worse possible thoughts and you’ve been able to talk yourself out of it. You’re not alone. I know it feels that way because no one really understands. Especially when you’re taking blow after blow while trying not to break every single day. You’re so strong. As you read this you are realizing how much strength you possess.

6.  If you start to crack again, start from step 1.

Please ask for help before you give up.


Make Love Not War….

Be cautious with your words. True with your intentions. Release negative withholdings. Soothe your inner being. Move and act in love. Be genuine.

Today is a wonderful day to renew your energy. Focus on cleansing and healing. Share your energy with like minds. If you choose to make love or have sex today, be intentional in that. The energy you release and the energy you take in all play a role in your life. Be aware of what you are choosing to internalize.

❤️💫


Sexless Love…

Sex is only 50% of the relationship when its bad or barely existent.
Why are people having unsatisfied sex? Why are they silent about that fact? Why do some women not know what great, wall climbing, back scratching sex is?                                                                Why is it a chore and not a pleasure?

This is geared towards the people in relationships and marriages, not so much as the single people. Single people still have the capability to have a different partner and resume new lust and fresh passion. You know who you are, even if you’re in denial. Men, I know you have heard the saying that a woman’s sex drive is tied to her emotions. Understand that for many, they are, doesn’t mean you will never get some. Just keep in mind that your sex lives in previous relationships are completely and utterly IRRELEVANT. Men and women have heard the saying that men are physical and don’t necessarily combined sex with emotion. It’s physical. However, when you’re in a relationship for many years, you can’t just hop on her and expect her to be ready. Some women need the car warmed up. But ladies, you don’t always have a headache (sex can help that though) and every time won’t be romantic. That doesn’t mean it can’t be great. No one should roll their eyes during sex because they are bored.
First things first: know your mate!!!!!!!

1. Talk to your partner. If the sex isn’t good it is the fault of both individuals. Communication is just as important in the bedroom as it is outside of the bedroom. Don’t be afraid to share who you are sexually with your partner. Closed mouths to get fed. And be open to change.

2. Explore. How is your man suppose to now know how to please you, if you don’t. Case closed. Men how is she suppose to know if your not telling her, she’s not the ex or the ones before her.

3. Be confident in your abilities whether you are a man or woman. Never be to cocky in a relationship because what worked on or with someone else may not work with this partner.

4. I have said this a thousand times. Take a trip to a toy store with your mate. If you’re married and want to be for the next 40-50 years, you should both be satisfied.

5. The two of you should decide what “normal” is. Never let anyone else determine the rules of your relationship. Create your own norms that satisfy you both!

All in all it’s a partnership. Don’t say anything that you wouldn’t want said to you. It can be a delicate discussion. My motto is that you should have a rewarding sex life, not a chore list. A sex bucket list is sexy though!

It’s alright if you require sex therapy but always, always try to work within your reach a push a bit past it. The two of you know each other best. Pay attention to when your mate is sexually frustrated. Everything that seems as if it is about sex, may actually be an underlying issue. Hence….communication is key!

Have fun and try something exciting tonight! Until next time lovers!! 🙂

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Opposites- Setisoppo: Do they attract??

Do opposites really attract??
I often hear people say opposites attract, but I wonder for how long. In the beginning people love what seems opposite to them, but after a couple of years things may greatly fizzle.

Example 1: you love how calm she is and the fact that she stays home to wait for you. On the other hand, you’re a social butterfly and the honeymoon phase is over. You want to do something, anything except stay home!! Now you’re second guessing if this is the right one for you because you compromised your wants. You understand compromise, but when does that become complete sacrifice.
Example 2: He is a ton of fun, but a little sarcastic. Not dumb, but could use a peep at current events. You’re the intellectual type, but he keeps you smiling. That was fun at first, but now you want to have stimulating conversation and that is a no go because of his lack there of.

Just an observation but do people become bored with what is consider the opposite?


Striptease….Freaky Friday!

Had to do some research for you 🙂

Ever try to do a strip tease or really wanted to, but didn’t want to be embarrassed? Well first thing first, men just enjoy the thought of knowing that you won’t be wearing clothes long 🙂 Just a few tips on some spicy techniques to add to your routine. Set the video camera up first!!!!

1. Make sure he is seated in the middle of the room.

2. Try a business suit. No shirt underneth, just a bra, no panties. Make sure the breast are sitting up nicely and button the jacket. (There is something enticing about a woman in a business suit).

3. Very high heels. (Heels accentuate the legs and buttocks).

4. Sexy music. (choose music that your man enjoys, he will love it). Something you can groove to!

5. Make sure you smell tasty.

6. Go slow and start from across the room. Keep heels on at all times. Bottoms (hopefully a skirt, not pants) will come off first.

7. Stand in front of his chair and use any leg to place your foot in his chair. Bend over towards him, kiss him. Tease each lip with soft kisses and gently suck. Step back down, turn around, give him a little lap dance. Pop back up really slow and sexy, with your butt near his face and pull the skirt down slowly, tease a little. All that’s left are the jacket, heels, and panties. What happens next is up to you!! Enjoy!!


Love, life and all its challenges

I have decided to focus on this blog more often. Love and life can be quite complicated and discussions should take place. I chose this format so that you may ask questions and respond anonymously. Please feel free to suggest topics, invite friends  and join the conversations.

Many of us find ourselves in love. We do not always remember when it started but it felt good. Somehow in the years of togetherness you may feel like you lost yourself or lost something. You have been an individual for so long that you struggle to conform to your new life. You love your mate, but the push and pull can get tough. The smallest thing can quite possibly set you off. Or you just don’t quite know why they are so mad about such a small issue. Sound familiar? Whether you are married or not is irrelevant, because each relationship requires a certain amount of conformity. The roles then begin, who takes the kids to school, wakes up at 5 to feed the crying baby, who does the dishes, or cooks. In the mist of trying to make this thing work, you still try to keep a little of yourself for yourself.

Question: What is the best thing about love, relationships and marriage?

Question: Have your views changed since you’ve been married?

Question: How do you achieve keeping a little of yourself?

Question: What do you find most difficult with relationships whether you are single or involved?

Question: What is the most attractive thing in a man or woman?

Singles: What are the issues that come with being single?

If you find it hard to date, what could be done to improve it?

Would you be receptive to singles event that are tailored to your standards?

Being single comes with perks and negatives, Im sure. What are they?

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Self Pleasure…


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The older I get, I run into more women (especially young ones) that can not imagine pleasuring themselves. I hear things like ” it does nothing for me” or ” my man does it right, so I don’t need to do it”. One has nothing to do with the other. If you have a difficult time pleasing yourself, how can anyone else please you? Just curious. It’s a true state of relaxation and no pressure of satisfying anyone but yourself at the moment. You learn new things about yourself 😉

How do you know everything you like or how to teach him your best number, if you don’t know it? Have you ever had that climb up the wall and electrifying passion that caused an internal explosion before you even get started? Amazing right? Well, real self pleasure is all enjoyment and only if you desire it. No pressure.

There is a whole different type of orgasm that occurs when you’re controlling it. It helps you get to know yourself as a woman. It is empowering! No, it does not replace your mate or make you want them any less, it can enhance what you have. When in a long term monogamous relationship, the same old thing becomes mundane. If you’re single, you may want to consider it. Life is too short to be unsatisfied.

I know it is not for everyone, but at least try it before you completely disregard it. I even have some toys that I highly recommend! So feel free to inquire. Don’t be ashamed of achieving an amazing orgasm. Being in touch with your own sexuality is an amazing feeling and you’re allowed to have it. We will all get well acquainted in this area with self confidence and self sexual gratification.

Until next time…
Let’s get spicy!!!!!


Amorous Intoxication…

Disclaimer: Grown Folks Only

Amorous: am·o·rous – adjective

  • showing, feeling, or relating to sexual desire.
  • synonyms: romanticlustfulsexualerotic

    Lips licked…. The power of interpretation.

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    Let me introduce you to the “Experience”.

  • Are you loved, pleased and satisfied sexually? If you were a teacher, how would you teach this lesson? To provide a fully enjoyable Experience, one must be in tune with the body. It should be a full on Experience. Now understand, this type of Experience is not for everyone and not for every time. I am describing this as the teacher, professor if you will. There is so much that I would love to add to this blog, but I will keep it brief and save it for another blog. Shake off the conventional methods. Grab your student and lets begin.

  • Atmosphere and activity – Seduction starts before the kiss…

  • *Music should be perfect, slow but beautiful. Pay attention to the words of the songs you choose, it is important. Music is key because your body will begin to respond to the sound waves. Go turn on some music, I love Alina Baraz-Can I, Rick Braun/ Love Take Me, Somi- Ginger Me Slowly…The important part about this is to fully understand your own body first. This understanding will make you a better lover. During your dance, touch yourself and get completely comfortable doing so. This will require being naked and you may enjoy closing your eyes.

  • *Environment needs be dimly lit if possible. You want to be able to see what is about to take place. I adore setting the scene in a hotel room because it gives you the freedom to get creative and role play. If you ever have the opportunity to possess 24 full hours of their time, you could do some amazing things.

  • *Choose smells that are lightly scented with Patchouli, Jasmine, Rose or Ylang-ylang. These scents will stimulate the nervous system, attract sexual love and make you feel good.

  • *Fruit is always a great thing to have near the possible locations. This will keep energy up and reduce dry mouth from the kissing sessions. Water and coconut water is also helpful. Bedroom, hotel room, living room (always a great choice) and anywhere else that you can think of. If it is a hotel, choose the bed last, let’s not be boring!

  • So let’s get to the amorous intoxication… If you are intimate with a kisser, tease the lips a little. (That’s open to interpretation too)!  Soft kisses with a gentle suck of the lip. Now use this time wisely, you’re making love not racing. During this time you should recognize your partners motion so be prepared to use it. My advice, slower is always better. It’s much more intense. Erotic. You feel every, single inch and drip of this session. The bodily responses should be warm, wet and hard. The better you work, the wetter the playground. Take your time. Intertwine those fingers and kiss often. During your breaks, touch, fondle and learn more about your bodies. Feed one another the fruit and lick the finger tips. Don’t be afraid to tell the person… “Teach me how to love you. Show me what you need”. This Experience is about a complete connection. When it is time for round 2, introduce something new. Feathers, blindfolds, toys, new positions )a lick, suck and ride all at once if you’re feeling frisky), absolutely no repeats… unless they beg for it. Again, take your time. Touch it, taste it, tease it. After round 3, it’s shower time. This shower should be delicious. Wash him, wash her, move the water from your faces but allow the room to steam. This is the opportunity to explore even further. Place her leg on the side of the tub or railing (anything stable), explore using your fingers or tongue (your choice). Don’t be selfish ladies, you’ll be exploring too. Work every inch of the shower and the body! The feeling is so amazing that you feel… intoxicated. When the shower is over, dry each other off. Go lay down together, what happens next is up to you. You may want to eat some real food though! (I see you biting your lip 😏)!

  • Be a partner and have a partner that is absolutely concerned with your pleasure.  Can you taste it, can you smell them, can you feel them… Flashbacks will occur. Ok, go plan your sexscapade. Don’t wait, great sex awaits you…

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Sex and Love…

Life is funny. Love is powerful. Sex is the intertwining of souls.  Intoxication. Consumption. Energy. Overwhelming. The staircase to all things love, passion, soul joining….

Is it possible to control who you love and how you love them? Does sex complicate that?

I have this idea that when you have sex with a person, your souls are joining. No matter how brief, that person is apart of you forever. I didn’t respect or even consider this portion of the equation when I was in my 20’s. I heard it before, but wasn’t sure what was meant by it.

I can say this, when you have sex with a person that you are both in love with and/or love beforehand, it is a completely different type of energy. One could say it’s electrifying. Have you felt before?

The act of sex is by far one of the most personal, intimate and enlightening engagements you will participate in. I implore you to be cautious who you share that part of yourself with. If you are in fact deeply in love with or love the person, you’ve now forever changed the dynamics of your love. You may feel possessive, attached and much more involved. Why is that?

Seems normal once you’ve shared yourself with a person. Do you punish yourself for doing it if the other person doesn’t feel the same way or when you don’t know what they feel?  Do you even know what you’re feeling? Expectations… Are those feelings overwhelming? Are those feelings fair and warranted? Now what….


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